Something is Broken

If you want to know if something is wrong in your relationship, talk to your partner and voice your concern. One of two outcomes will happen. In the first outcome, they will listen to your problem, reassure you that everything will be alright, and even initiate a conversation to make you feel better. The second outcome will reveal signs of a broken relationship. When you express concern to your partner, they go off on a tangent and begin to blame you, telling you that whatever you are concerned about is your own doing. 

I've seen relationships crumble because of finger-pointing. Often, finger-pointing is a result of a lack of communication in the relationship. But, unfortunately, it doesn't just stop there. Hurtful words are hard to take back when hurled at each other. Hard as it may be, it would be wise to detach yourself from the hurtful words thrown at you emotionally. Then, you will quickly discover what is going on in your partner's heart and mind.  

They may be irritated at you because of something you did to offend them but failed to acknowledge. Your partner might be cheating on you and are mentally comparing their new love interest to you. They may have had a bad day at work, and the list goes on.  

Fortunately, you can avoid all these things by making communication a priority in the relationship. First, however, you must make time for your relationship to work. Make a plan and schedule a date night. Have sex and lots of it. Laugh together, and dream big together.  
Remind each other that both of you are there for each other. Remember, your partner isn't your competition. Your partner is your teammate, your better half. Acknowledge that. 

Don't wait for your partner to address a problem in your relationship. Instead, could you do your part to fix it? Be understanding and giving. It doesn't hurt to be grateful and humble too. 
Have a great rest of your life!

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